John Gottman is a leading expert on relationships and has a really great blog for anyone looking for information on how to strengthen their relationship. One of the articles I just found speaks about how we can betray our partners in other ways besides just infidelity. As someone who has experienced all 3 forms of these betrayals I can both personally and professionally speak to just how painful these betrayals can be and also how, in many ways, they can affect not just a relationship but also an individual’s sense of self.
While I think all of these are extremely damaging and hurtful, I think the one I find most impactful is emotional cheating. It has the damage of the betrayal, often followed up with the confusion of having your partner deny that they are doing anything wrong. Not only do I think this is cruel to do to someone but it also makes friendships, something that is supposed to be so healthy for a relationship, a place of pain, and distrust moving forward.
Healing from betrayal often takes a lot of work, commitment and honest reflection in order to be overcome. Take a look at this article and see if you have experienced any of these betrayals. If so, what did you do to heal? Leave your answer in the comment section below!