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Do you find it impossible to not jump straight into problem solving anytime your partner is struggling? Do you feel like offering advice is your strong suit and so you provide solutions before your partner has even finished his/her sentence? This is one of the most common things that happens in relationships. Someone expresses pain… Read more

How are you holding up? This social distancing is starting to become much more impactful than it was in the first few weeks. I am not sure what your experience was, but for many people, myself included, the first few weeks felt like a bit of an exhale. Busy schedules were replaced with time at… Read more

When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” Mr. Rogers Before we begin I want to thank you for having me pop into your inbox today. I know there is a lot… Read more

As I was lying on the couch with Matt earlier, watching our 3rd episode of Killing Eve, I reflected on how nice it was to waste time with him. The reality is that both of us, me in particular, live very busy lives and we don’t often get to just do nothing together. Typically our… Read more

Happy Father’s Day to all the Dad’s out there! I was flipping through the John Gottman Facebook page today and saw this post called “Letter To My Anxiety.” As someone who has struggled on and off with significant bouts of anxiety in my life, it peaked my interest. What is this person going to say… Read more

People typically come see me because something isn’t working in their life. It could be due to their relationship with themselves or their relationship with others but one thing that has been popping up a lot in my office as of late is the role avoidance is playing in their life. There are so many… Read more

Have you ever had one of those nights where you stayed up later than you wanted, or just couldn’t fall asleep, or for those of you that have kids, was up every 3 hours because your precious little one was completely out of sorts? Sleep exhaustion is even worse than a hangover if you ask… Read more

One of my best friends just messaged me this morning from Toronto. She went out with her 1 year old to go visit her husband who is currently working out there on a project. In her message to me this morning she expressed all these things that were making her feel so happy, even something… Read more

One of my most favourite relationship Therapists, Vienna Pharoan, has just offered a free relationship training that will teach you, over 7 days, how to improve your communication, build better boundaries and deepen intimacy. She recently got married to her husband who is actually a local Vancouverite, and in celebration of their bond they have… Read more

Matt and I were lying in bed the other night talking about some things and then he got angry and told me I have to stop assuming things and then drawing conclusions from my own projections. To be honest, my first reaction was to be defensive, I  wanted to line up my army of defence… Read more