Do you remember when Covid first hit and, when the anxiety didn’t feel too overwhelming, the experience actually felt like an exhale? Time seemed to slow down, we had more space to take care of ourselves and to attend to the things that matter most to us, like our loved ones and some long lost… Read more
Relationships
I was working a lot this past week with individuals in relationships and many of them were facing the same things. Feeling stuck in the same problem over and over again and finding it really hard to be completely honest with their partner about how they were feeling. It never fails to amaze how me… Read more
I have sat down to write this blog every night for the past 5 nights and keep staring at an empty page. It feels impossible to try to find the words to address something so significant especially as someone with white privilege. But I also acknowledge that saying nothing is a lot worse than saying… Read more
Do you find it impossible to not jump straight into problem solving anytime your partner is struggling? Do you feel like offering advice is your strong suit and so you provide solutions before your partner has even finished his/her sentence? This is one of the most common things that happens in relationships. Someone expresses pain… Read more
How are you holding up? This social distancing is starting to become much more impactful than it was in the first few weeks. I am not sure what your experience was, but for many people, myself included, the first few weeks felt like a bit of an exhale. Busy schedules were replaced with time at… Read more
When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” Mr. Rogers Before we begin I want to thank you for having me pop into your inbox today. I know there is a lot… Read more
As I was lying on the couch with Matt earlier, watching our 3rd episode of Killing Eve, I reflected on how nice it was to waste time with him. The reality is that both of us, me in particular, live very busy lives and we don’t often get to just do nothing together. Typically our… Read more
Happy Father’s Day to all the Dad’s out there! I was flipping through the John Gottman Facebook page today and saw this post called “Letter To My Anxiety.” As someone who has struggled on and off with significant bouts of anxiety in my life, it peaked my interest. What is this person going to say… Read more
People typically come see me because something isn’t working in their life. It could be due to their relationship with themselves or their relationship with others but one thing that has been popping up a lot in my office as of late is the role avoidance is playing in their life. There are so many… Read more
Have you ever had one of those nights where you stayed up later than you wanted, or just couldn’t fall asleep, or for those of you that have kids, was up every 3 hours because your precious little one was completely out of sorts? Sleep exhaustion is even worse than a hangover if you ask… Read more