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People often ask me why recovery from an eating disorder can sometimes take so long and why it can show up in the most unexpected ways out of nowhere. The tricky thing with eating disorders is that their ultimate goal is to stay in control of your life for as long as possible. What this… Read more

Let’s be honest, life gets really busy really quickly. Sometimes I look at my calendar only to realize a week or month has gone by and I am not quite sure where it has gone. From what I have been told, I am not alone in feeling this way, but I do think it is… Read more

As we head into summer and a reopening I think it is important that we all set some time aside to consider what it is we need to navigate these next few months as kindly and compassionately as possible. When you struggle with an eating disorder, Summer can be a more triggering time of year… Read more

What do we do when it feels like our loved ones are struggling and we don’t know how to help? How can we show up when their struggles feel painful or harmful to our wellbeing? How do I manage supporting someone else when I am feeling drained and exhausted myself? Why can’t they see all… Read more

I have been given a lot of gifts over this past week, many of them being some very real and raw conversations about how individuals are doing after continuing to weather the storm that the past 15 months has been. The growth alongside the grief that this year has brought with it has been immense… Read more

First off, Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers, Mothers to be, and those who are longing to become Mothers. And to those of you in pain or grief today, my heart is with yours.  Today is an interesting day. Of course it can be perceived as a Hallmark holiday that many feel obligated to… Read more

Eating disorders are often a family affair. Regardless of age, when one person is struggling, the effects can often trickle down to other family members when the disorder is dominant in a person’s life. I get phone calls and emails often from families looking for ways to support their loved ones. Parents, siblings and partners… Read more

When I work with individuals or couples, one of the common questions that gets asked is “how do I fix the parts of my relationship that feel broken?” It is normal and common to look at our relationship through the lens of what isn’t working and the pain that we are feeling. The hard part… Read more

The Perfectionism Defense When it comes to working through an eating disorder and trying to achieve recovery, some of the things we have to take a close look at are the defenses we use to protect ourselves from our more painful emotions. One of the most common ones is the defense of Perfectionism. When we… Read more

And so it arrives again! The celebration that people either love to love or love to hate. It doesn’t seem like there are many celebrations that can bring on as many mixed emotions as Valentine’s Day and yet, if you’re in a relationship, there is reason to celebrate it this year. These past 11 months… Read more

Happy New Year! I always find this time of year really interesting because of how quickly the focus shifts from holiday celebrations to what we are going to change about ourselves in the upcoming year. With this past year being as overwhelming as it was, I think many people are hoping this year will prove… Read more

Wow, we have arrived. It feels like the holidays came after 723 months of 2020. Does it feel that way on your end too? I hope as we have arrived to the holidays you are able to spend a bit of time catching your breath. Most people have found this year has challenged their relationships… Read more

The holidays this year feel a lot different than normal. While many people have reported that the lack of holiday parties feels like a relief from a food perspective, it feels harder due to the increased isolation. The holidays are a time when we are used to connecting, feeling like a part of something, and… Read more

Let’s talk about sex baby! Oh the wonderful topic of sex in relationships. There are few topics that have such a polarizing impact on a relationship as sex. It is either a part of the highest highs or the lowest lows. Most people remember that amazing feeling when they first meet someone, the chemistry is… Read more

Wrapping up October with a focus on vulnerability feels fitting giving everything we as the world and as individuals are going through right now. It feels like this October is hitting harder than some from the past with trying to balance not just our usual struggles adjusting to colder and darker days, but also the… Read more

As a therapist, I strongly believe in doing my own work. I know that while I often have a lot of information in my head around best practice, it doesn’t always mean I implement it well in my own life. It is much easier, it seems, to support and encourage healthy behaviors when you yourself… Read more

I was in session yesterday and my client and I were talking about the role that food plays in her life. As an eating disorder and relationship therapist, the two worlds often overlap and I see how pain in one area can often cause pain in another. She made the point that being single often… Read more

Do you remember when Covid first hit and, when the anxiety didn’t feel too overwhelming, the experience actually felt like an exhale? Time seemed to slow down, we had more space to take care of ourselves and to attend to the things that matter most to us, like our loved ones and some long lost… Read more

When I am not in my private practice with clients, you will find me working for a wonderful non-profit called the Looking Glass Foundation located here in Vancouver. It is an incredible organization entirely focused on providing free support to individuals who are struggling with an eating disorder. Recently my colleague, Maja, asked our social… Read more

I was working a lot this past week with individuals in relationships and many of them were facing the same things. Feeling stuck in the same problem over and over again and finding it really hard to be completely honest with their partner about how they were feeling. It never fails to amaze how me… Read more

I have sat down to write this blog every night for the past 5 nights and keep staring at an empty page. It feels impossible to try to find the words to address something so significant especially as someone with white privilege. But I also acknowledge that saying nothing is a lot worse than saying… Read more