kaela

Let’s be honest, life gets really busy really quickly. Sometimes I look at my calendar only to realize a week or month has gone by and I am not quite sure where it has gone. From what I have been told, I am not alone in feeling this way, but I do think it is… Read more

As we head into summer and a reopening I think it is important that we all set some time aside to consider what it is we need to navigate these next few months as kindly and compassionately as possible. When you struggle with an eating disorder, Summer can be a more triggering time of year… Read more

What do we do when it feels like our loved ones are struggling and we don’t know how to help? How can we show up when their struggles feel painful or harmful to our wellbeing? How do I manage supporting someone else when I am feeling drained and exhausted myself? Why can’t they see all… Read more

I have been given a lot of gifts over this past week, many of them being some very real and raw conversations about how individuals are doing after continuing to weather the storm that the past 15 months has been. The growth alongside the grief that this year has brought with it has been immense… Read more

First off, Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers, Mothers to be, and those who are longing to become Mothers. And to those of you in pain or grief today, my heart is with yours.  Today is an interesting day. Of course it can be perceived as a Hallmark holiday that many feel obligated to… Read more

Eating disorders are often a family affair. Regardless of age, when one person is struggling, the effects can often trickle down to other family members when the disorder is dominant in a person’s life. I get phone calls and emails often from families looking for ways to support their loved ones. Parents, siblings and partners… Read more

When I work with individuals or couples, one of the common questions that gets asked is “how do I fix the parts of my relationship that feel broken?” It is normal and common to look at our relationship through the lens of what isn’t working and the pain that we are feeling. The hard part… Read more

The Perfectionism Defense When it comes to working through an eating disorder and trying to achieve recovery, some of the things we have to take a close look at are the defenses we use to protect ourselves from our more painful emotions. One of the most common ones is the defense of Perfectionism. When we… Read more

And so it arrives again! The celebration that people either love to love or love to hate. It doesn’t seem like there are many celebrations that can bring on as many mixed emotions as Valentine’s Day and yet, if you’re in a relationship, there is reason to celebrate it this year. These past 11 months… Read more