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The Bucket List Items That All Couples Should Have

When we have been in a relationship for a long time sometimes we start to assume that we know where our partner is wanting to go in their lives and the route they are planning to take to get there. While this may be true some of the time it often isn’t true most of the time. While at one time in your life you likely talked about hopes, goals and dreams, those moments often get lost in the day to day that is our lives as our relationship matures. As individuals we have thoughts, ideas, passions, inspirations, goals, hopes and dreams that can run through our mind at any time and perhaps even multiple times a day. We don’t often share these inner thoughts because they don’t always seem significant and yet they often determine how we live our lives and give us focus.

Understanding the very things that make our partners tick is one of the easiest ways couples can stay on the same page. Turning these “ticks” into shared goals will help you achieve greater relationship success and ultimately greater relationship satisfaction. It will help give you a clear picture of where you are heading and allows you both to invest in what is important to you each as individuals and to your relationship. how to make a bucket list

What I recommend is that couples sit down and make a “bucket list” so to speak of all the different areas in their life:

  1. Hobbies/Interests
  2. Travel
  3. Money
  4. Housing
  5. Health
  6. Careers
  7. Etc!


With each of these, each person will write down what is most important to them individually, what milestones they would like to reach within each area and the date in which they want to reach it by. Discuss them as a couple and see which ones you share. Put all of them on one master list and then post this list somewhere where you can both see it (whether this be on the fridge, in an office or in your bedroom). Have a monthly meeting to discuss where you are each at and if you are reaching your goals. Don’t forget to discuss the places you may need additional support and what you would like that support to look like.

When a goal has been reached I recommend celebrating it in some capacity and acknowledging the progress and effort you each have made to make it happen.

What items are on your bucketlist? Share them in the comment section below.

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  • Patricia August 3, 2014, 7:47 pm

    Holding on to God, amidst life’s uncertainties.

  • lisa Freedman August 5, 2014, 8:56 pm

    Hi Kaela…Interesting topic. I turned fifty last December and have been working on a bucket list ever since. Most of mine have been adventure based…so i like the idea of adding some other areas of our life on that list. most recently was going to a batting cage for my husbands birthday…we are both big baseball fans and have always wanted to try and hit a ball at a professional speed/level. we did it …so fun, a little painful and very cool. it also seems to be rubbing off on friends of mine who want to join me on my next adventure…ziplining at whistler…..have a great day.Thanks

  • lisa Freedman August 5, 2014, 8:59 pm

    Sorry Kaela..i forgot to mention that i am also putting personal goals on this list…like being as authentic in my life as possible…owning my own stuff, being as honest as i can be with myself. Being a good friend, wife , sister and daughter, helping out where i can..things like that…Lisa

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