Relationships

I often have people ask me, through their tears, why they keep ending up with people who hurt them or why they keep choosing the same kind of person who inevitably leaves them brokenhearted. The real question you may need to ask yourself is why you keep picking people you know underneath aren’t healthy enough… Read more

In relationships I think we are always looking for ways that we can communicate more effectively, in good times but especially in hard times. Unfortunately, conflict is something that many of us struggle with which can cause us to react in ways that either add fuel to the fire or cause a relationship standoff. Many… Read more

There are times in our relationships where we all just need to bite our tongues and not say what we are really thinking. This can actually help make a relationship healthier and improve your day-to-day interactions. There are times, however, when biting our tongue prevents our relationship from developing into what it has the potential… Read more

One of the people I love to follow on social media is Vienna Pharoan of MindfulMFT. She is a couple’s therapist in New York and a lot of what she has to say really resonates with how I practice and what I believe when it comes to working with couples. She recently wrote a blog… Read more

It is human nature to hurt people at times. Overwhelming feelings, stress, work, life etc. can all cause us to engage in ways that we aren’t always proud of or even aware of at certain times. In relationships, damage occurs not just when we hurt someone but also when we don’t adequately try to repair… Read more

I often have couples come into my office telling me about the communication fails they feel they have in their relationship. They feel they don’t fight fairly, or they feel misunderstood or not heard. Sometimes in relationships it’s the silence that feels most threatening to a relationship because the effort of even trying to talk… Read more

I read an interview today with Esther Perel. If you don’t know her, you should definitely watch her Ted Talk on Youtube, it’s great. This article though was amazing. I felt like I read it and it screamed so many truths I felt I had to share. How often do we get our partners desire… Read more

Stephen Covey first wrote about this in his 7 Habits of Highly Affective People. He believes communication is the most critical skill we need in order to be successful and in many ways I agree. How often are we listening only to craft our own response? How often, in your relationships, have you reacted before… Read more

Have you ever wondered what makes some relationships successful and others less so? Or why some couples seem to have that “it” factor that makes them seem happy and connected even during times of stress while others have a hard time seeming connected even during the good times? I have to be honest, I spent… Read more