Have you ever found yourself in a situation in your relationship that is emotionally loaded but that you and your partner both have completely different experiences of? Often in my couples therapy work, the real issues lie somewhere in the middle of what each individual is saying. The reason for this is because we project… Read more
Relationships
It is a true and sad reality that the majority of the couples I see in my office are couples who are experiencing significant relationship distress. Often they come in because they have reached a point where they aren’t sure how to carry forward if there aren’t significant changes. I admire that they come in… Read more
I need to take a step away from my usual blog this week to let you all know that Looking Glass Summer Camp registration is open! This really is the highlight of my year, not just my professional year but my year as a whole. Each year I meet 24 amazing young women (between the… Read more
When couples come into my room, depending on the issue that is being brought forward, I will often ask them what their love story is. How did they meet? How did they know that they wanted a second, third, fortieth date? What was it about their partner that made them choose him or her? When… Read more
You know how in relationships we are often told we need to fight fairly? That, despite out frustrations we need to make sure we are always communicating as well as possible? You also know how in relationships sometimes the small things feel like the biggest thing and when you start to air your grievances, before… Read more
As a therapist, many people believe that the main area of focus in my work with clients would be on helping them understand and work through their emotions. This belief would be accurate. What causes the most grief, however, is trying to get people to understand the difference between feeling their emotions and thinking about… Read more
Valentines Day is fast approaching and while I would love to believe that we all treat every day in our relationship like Valentines day, the reality of that is pretty slim. So I am here to give you a few ideas on how make the one day dedicated to our relationships a success. In doing… Read more
I recently came upon this article written by John Gottman, a leading relationship researcher and expert and found myself quite fascinated by the researcher he points to. Is a man’s emotional intelligence really the greatest predictor of marital success? Is this one of the reasons so many marriages fail? Can emotional intelligence be learnt? While… Read more
I wrote this article a few years back but with the new year and my office filling with couples struggling with this issue, I thought I would resend it. Couples often get stuck in the same rut and the more they keep struggling to connect, the harder it is for them to change the story… Read more
Happy New Year! As another year wraps up and a new one begins, I want to start by saying thank you for letting me be a part of your lives over the past year. It means a lot to get your emails letting me know which posts you found helpful or to have you reach… Read more
