One of the hardest things to do in life is face our own truth. We cover up our suffering with a smile, make excuses, intellectualize or suppress what we are going through in order to maintain the life we have known. Perhaps when life gets tough you work harder, or maybe you run away or… Read more
Relationships
Sometimes from the outside looking in we look at relationships and wonder what it is that makes some work and others not. Is there a secret ingredient of sorts that only some couples have discovered? How is she able to get past his messy ways and why does he seem to be so supportive when… Read more
In my masters program one of my colleagues discovered that after 18 years of being married him and his wife had been going about getting what they want completely backwards. For example, he always planned big elaborate birthday parties for her and she made sure his birthday was at home with the family. In reality… Read more
You know those moments when you read an article and things just seem to make a lot of sense? I had this week when I was reading an article on Mind Body Green about how we can sabotage our relationships in this tricky unforeseen way. Ego plays a big role in our lives in so… Read more
A client came into my office the other day with a complete story in his mind about how his fragility (read emotions) are a weakness. He wanted to hide away as his sadness rose and stopped making eye contact because he said he felt ashamed to have me see him in that state. In that… Read more
Breakups may be one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. Both severing the attachment, letting go of all your dreams for the future and having to figure out your life now that you are no longer together. I follow Nate from the Loveumentary and his latest newsletter was all about breakups… Read more
Sometimes in our relationships we can’t see the forest through the trees? Have you ever found yourself in that situation? I know I sure have. It is really hard to see an experience for what it is when we are living right in the middle of it. When we are that close, our feelings are… Read more
Burnout is an incredibly difficult thing to deal with and impacts your ability to connect with others. Trying to invest in any of your relationships while burnt out is like trying to drive a car that has no gas. You may get it started but it definitely isn’t going anywhere. I have had a lot… Read more
In relationships there are lots of times where we make mistakes that can end up hurting our partner. Ideally it is something little but most of us can be guilty of occasionally doing things that can cause some real damage. Learning how to repair these hurts can allow for everyone to move forward in a… Read more
Esther Perel is a leading researcher and sex therapist who has written many interesting and insightful books on relationships, desire, and infidelity. She recently came to Vancouver to present at TedTalks Vancouver and her talk Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk For Anyone Who Has Ever Loved was insightful and interesting. Having just listened to it yesterday… Read more
