Relationships

I was sitting with a couple in my office last week and upon talking to them realized that they had very different ideas about what marriage is. They had similar wants but different values and it was leading to conflict in their marriage. I think when you are married it is important to have a… Read more

I think this may be the first time since I started writing 5 years ago that my relationship newsletter actually goes out on Valentines day. Because today is a day about connecting I am going to give you a few brief thouhts on making today special whether single or happily coupled. If you are in… Read more

There has been a lot coming out lately about conflict in relationships and why it is healthy. As a therapist, I often hear couples say they are fighting all the time, or, on the flip side, that they never fight and are scared of doing so. Conflict, when done correctly, is actually one of the… Read more

I was in session the other with a woman the other day who has been married for 15 years. She was talking about how she read somewhere that when it comes to relationships, women will typically process themselves out of a relationship before leaving while men will leave and then process themselves out afterwards. She… Read more

Happy new year! As I write this I am sitting in my cabin which is in the middle of nowhere drinking a cup of tea while watching the snow fall. It is a truly magical place and one that brings great comfort because of how quiet and still it is. I went out snowshoeing today… Read more

I was reading through Mind Body Green the other day on my work break and came across this article. The holidays are stressful enough as is without the much unneeded pressures and conflicts that can arise in our relationships. This article tapped into 3 common issues that arise over the holidays between couples and I… Read more

I hope everyone is enjoying their last weekend of November. This week’s post is short and sweet because I am out and about with my sister and niece, but the topic for this week is rather fitting. December is the time of year when many traditions are celebrated and we (hopefully) spend more time focusing… Read more

We are entering into that time of year again where everything gets busier but things never seem to get done. I was reading the book The happiness Project the other day and she spoke about “the power hour.” Having looked it up she wrote a blog post about it that you can read here. I… Read more

I think one of the most common sayings we hear, especially when going through a difficult time in our relationship, is that time heals all wounds. I often get asked if I believe this is true and for those who have sat with me during their heartbreak have heard me use it. My answer: yes… Read more