A client came into my office the other day with a complete story in his mind about how his fragility (read emotions) are a weakness. He wanted to hide away as his sadness rose and stopped making eye contact because he said he felt ashamed to have me see him in that state. In that… Read more

In my meetup group the other night we talked about the 4 things that promote eating disorder recovery. While of course there are many other factors necessary, at times, to recover, these 4 things are critical to your success. 1. Social Support: Eating disorders thrive in secrecy. The more you go against this and against… Read more

I found an article recently on 6 things successful therapy clients do. I think the author made some valuable points. Going to therapy can be a really challenging thing to do but it’s made more challenging if a client gives away their power and stops engaging in their own work. If you are in therapy… Read more

Sometimes I feel like as I sit down to write these posts I have new information to share that I hope will be helpful or supportive. Other times I feel the need to repeat information that I’ve already said. Usually in these moments I worry that the material will be redundant and then I remember… Read more

Breakups may be one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. Both severing the attachment, letting go of all your dreams for the future and having to figure out your life now that you are no longer together. I follow Nate from the Loveumentary and his latest newsletter was all about breakups… Read more

People will often ask me what the best resources are for people who are struggling with eating disorders and which ones they should try for themselves. The truth is there isn’t one answer. There are lots of different resources out there, not as many as I would like, but still lots of options. The trick… Read more

Sometimes in our relationships we can’t see the forest through the trees? Have you ever found yourself in that situation? I know I sure have. It is really hard to see an experience for what it is when we are living right in the middle of it. When we are that close, our feelings are… Read more

I think one of the most important skills we can learn in life is how to set boundaries and that one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves is setting boundaries when we need to. In the recovery process there will be lots of people who will want you to get well. How their… Read more

Burnout is an incredibly difficult thing to deal with and impacts your ability to connect with others. Trying to invest in any of your relationships while burnt out is like trying to drive a car that has no gas. You may get it started but it definitely isn’t going anywhere. I have had a lot… Read more